sk8chic100, I think we have all been there, and You will find this group has a wide range of beliefs, from those who are devout in their Christian beliefs to those just as sure of their Atheist beliefs. As you can imagine, this forum has generated some very heated debates and exchanges, in a wide range of subjects involving religions, and practices, and controversy between the Constitution, our laws, and our politicians, with regard to those religious issues.
Obviously the gay issues, and how they conflict with religious views, and what religions teach, is a pretty major topic now. All of our States are having gay marriage measures on their voting ballots, so this is one of the conflicts in question. The rights of gays, and what our Constitution seems to guarantee, and the fact religion is also a choice and right, and the freedom may be to disregard it. Sometimes our Constitutional rights conflict with each other, as this does. Adn sometimes our laws may tell you something is legal, while your religion/church will be telling you, it may be a sin. I wrote on time about the question of right and wrong, legal and illegal, and how they may conflict with what is a sin.
As far as your Grandmother hating your sister, you may be confusing hate, for never condoning a lifestyle she believes is sinful. So be careful not to turn yourself into the same kind of close minded, self righteous, people you talk about, by refusing to realize Grandma made her religious choices long before you and your sister were even thought of, not to mention your Mother. Sorry but the gay rights activists are so full of hate and contempt for any Christian thinking, they are among to most intolerant and hateful people you will find. Even you would never expect your Grandmother to abandon her Morman beliefs, because the laws have changed, and the Constitution may be telling you one thing, but her Bible tells her something else.