I guess the question is in many other religions, are there your most fundamentalist factions, that do live within your radical descriptions of them, but are there more moderate factions, that practice a peaceful religion that is different from Christian/Judeo religions? I do not think there are 1 billion out there ready to strap on suicide bombs, any more that thinking every Japanese person is a Kamikaze pilot. The culture of middle eastern countries, and how their religion is the primary part of these countries exclusively, is something none of us would relish, but they are not what we know as free societies. I can not imagine the USA, if the most fundamentalists of Christian religions, ran our country, kept score of your daily praying and going to church, and were able to pass laws, that were oppressive and discriminatory, and punish you for lack of going to church or praying 5 times a day. For instance some of the laws of the middle east regarding rape, or rights of women. The concept of honor killings is something out of centuries ago and unimaginable, but it happens today. You could find hundreds of passages from the Bible, Old Testament, that anyone can distort, but to actually practice in this world today would be ludicrous.
Than you have to ask the question in the USA, where freedom of religion and no oppression is our law, why is it we have so many crimes, murders, rapes, violence, organized gangs (no much better than Muslim terrorists IMHO), happen in a free society? You say you have lived with Muslims, well you also live in a Christian/Judeo society, and it is not so perfect either. Go Figure!