and April second was International Autism Awareness day
http://action.autismspeaks.org/?source= ... Kgodgnyztg
You can bet my family was dress in blue that day and we had our blue light out on the porch.
Autism rates in the last 20 years have risen to pandemic proportions. And still, no one really knows why.
At this point most people, if they are not related to someone with Autism, they know someone that is.
That's how common it has become.
The most poignant stories about Autism that have struck me in my life are of Temple Grandin
and of Nikki Bacharach (the daughter of Angie Dickenson and Burt Bahcarach)who commited suicide...because of her Autism..and her fears for her future as an aging Autistic..
http://www.ageofautism.com/2010/10/angi ... ghter.html
If you have someone in your family that has an Autistic child..please..if you have never done so, because it felt "too weird"..please just once..give them a call just to let them know you feel for them..you understand their pain..and have learned a bit about Autism..because of this.
Noone..to this day..except my mom, because she has had to, yet uncomfortably and often someowhat begrudgingly, from hearing me weep on the phone over the years)Besides her No One in either my family or my husband's family has ever done that. No one ever called or sent a note just to say "I feel for you"
early on, maybe it was to be expected..ignorance(I was even subletly accused of Munchousen by Proxy by a sister in law..who didn't even live near us..or saw my kid regularly, when I first raised my concerns)..but at this point there have been parents of children dx'd with it over the years..on tv..telling of the heartbreak of it...especially early on, at first discovery...yet..still..not once have they given us a nod (as they regulalry beyatch about their kid's grades or some trivial crap like that..or show off about their latest sporting score or whatever..insensative much?)
to say this stings a bit..is an understatement
we put up with it..without a word to them..because God forbid be the "whiny types" (like most in the special needs community do with their families..eye rolls here)
I tell this not to pity party myself, but to inform..because you see..it's common..people in the autistic and special needs community sardonically joke about it..how most families(and friends, even..we lose friends over it..too uncomfortable for them) just act like it's the big uncomfortable elephant in the room they don't want to adress..yet they'll go out of their way for a stranger..but not once..for their own family member just say.."I feel for you"..just that simple acknowledgement
so if you are one of those family members of which I speak..please..do..just drop them a note..a.phone call..just to say.."I get it now"