I think we see others and ourselves in certain images,
as all our experiences change, should we let those
images remain, things get blown way out of proportion.
We lose sight of the truth and as new images come
we are reluctant, giving fuel to the fire of the old and many
times things will then blow up in our face for us to take
a closer look at ourselves. Live, Learn, grow and move
with the flow.
I went through a phaze in which I bought many a book on narcism. (it's brought up a-lot on message boards having to do with being the victim of a mate's infidelity, as you can imagine)
I imagine after a mates infidelity it would become very trying
to allow the feelings and images of the experience to morph
back into love for yourself and others, and in truth I think the
only way that is done is by letting parts of yourself go with it.
And should it, and yet the other unwilling to change what
they imagine, it becomes a battle of should I stay or should I go.
Many times people become victims by believing that
they cannot escape the truth of themselves no matter
where they go or who they are with or where they are,
that the reflections are always the truth of themselves
under any circumstances. Narsissim has alot to do with
overestimation of ones appearances, however in the truth,
many times it is an underestimation of who we truly are.
Very loving people are subject to many things.
Mates for very loving people most often have
short circuits, love is the truth, at times
we can drive out not the best in others, but
very much the worst to make room for more.
More of our love.
I don't know how many people I see out there in relationships
that are kind loving gentile people, they meet someone think
things will remain in a certain image and all of a sudden
everything is a wreck.
I'm not laughing to be rude.
But I have no mistake that is how innocent and yet simply
destructive love can be.
I help people with these things all the time.
If you should be such a kind loving person, it is not
always good for others that you should be kind
and loving. In a sense that is all that
we are, appearances does not change love,
love changes appearances. As we grow,
we learn that at times to be angry, to be sad,
to be happy, to be disappointed, hurt,
is no less or more than another in our
ability to love ourselves or others. New life
is always given to these things, new meanings,
new cause and effects.
Where is the balance in these things.
Where is responsibility for ourselves in the truth
of who we are and our relations.
In truth we are all narcissists.
Just some side notes there, as I think there is alot
more that you have learned from your experiences
that you could share and I will look forward to sometime
hearing more about them. To also learn from them.
Let some of that stuff out, the deep and ugly.
Worst it can do is help us all.