great teaching story sandra,about the "exercise" your grandparents gave you...truly alot of wisdom in that teaching..
I heard native stories of the talking stick as well.and I've used it in family discussions....or "friendly" discussions a few times.
I know you have more info on this tradition sandra...would love any info somebody has.(yes this does relate to the topic)..patience my friends.
the rules for the talking stick were
Who ever was holding it,had the "floor" so to speak,and freedom to talk as long as you wanted ,or needed to make his/her view known.
Then whoever had the honour of holding the "talking stick",has the 'freedom" to pass that stick to anyone else,for their turn ,at the very same "freedom" they had to express their views, as best they could.
It was an honor to be passed the"stick", but if you rambled on to much,you were in danger,of losing that privelage.(know one would pass you the stick
whoever had the talking stick, was to be listened to, and tried to be understood for what he was trying to say.
its beautiful form of communication to me....Why?...I don't know.
the why behind the why...I am sure they used to answer discussions of that nature as well.
k///I'll shaaaadup now
(ppssst sandra..let me know if you know anything about this "talking stick legend".....drop it off to me in the music thread if you like
that was not meant to be sarcastic...just funny