Why me? I continue to experience hardship after hardships and for many yrs I have asked myself why do I have to suffer and deal with things in life that can be so unpleasant. Many times it seems like my life has 'fallen' apart, I get down on myself, end up for moments being consumed by guilt, fear, anxiety of who I am, and self pity for lifes situations, but as my awareness grows I'm learning to maintain something that defeats all of that, service to creation, service to cocreation and a foundation that doesn't 'crumble'.
Ive come to start learning that when my life feels like its falling apart, I'm only shedding another layer of my ego driven 'self service mode'. This sounds so simple, but to maintain this thought process is evergoing, when I am in service to others and creation, my life is good, but it is easy to fall out of and start living only for myself.
I go indepth contemplating this because I believe many people end up beating themselves up over things they are not entirely in control of, there are natural laws of the truth, that cannot be destroyed within us or outside of ourselves yet our perceptions soemtimes have us thinking that we are victims of the world, when we are often times the persecutor. It is easy for us to forget about free will, free will of what our thoughts create for us, I'm starting to believe pain and suffering are more of an illusion than I had ever known before. That in my life I will experience heaven and hell, and more than once. well thats my thought on the day anyways.
Interesting: If I may- I've a great deal of experience with this sort of thing, some of this can't be explained with mere words, however sometimes they do help.
If I were to ask you and 10 others: " What is the most important thing in your life? " I'd more than likely get 11 different answers. I use to have these meeting/talks/conferences in my past profession where a POSITIVE MENTAL ATTITUDE was paramount to the task at hand. I was a decent trainer with tons of experience in motivating people to better preform their jobs without getting too personal, a fine line indeed. Some are just not capable of happiness or of a positive attitude, it's why there are so many Multi- Millionaire Preachers. Sorry but that's the facts.
Here goes for what it's worth.
I once asked the question to a room full of trainees, had them write down their answers on a sheet of paper and pass it up. 10 -12 people as it was I got the usual common answers.
Wife-Family-Kids-Money- a few said their religion, no one gave the right answer, they never do.
So I asked one who had answered-his wife- to stand up and take the biggest-deepest breath he possibly could and hold it.
Silence filled the room, after 30 seconds or so several people say " Hey no fair " " Trick Question " To which I say--" How so " Your life is over without oxygen. Now what's next? Water, Food, Health--The wife now not so important because without the other THERE IS NO WIFE. Pretty simply but effective.
Like it or not the things we think are most important aren't nearly as important as we think or more importantly ( AS WE'VE BEEN LED TO BELIEVE ) It's the exact same with the bad things only in reverse.
I can ask people: " WHAT MAKES YOU HAPPY, TRULY HAPPY ?" Most people say something that they usually pull out of left field BECAUSE THEY HAVEN'T A CLUE about what makes them happy. How can one be happy if they don't know what true happiness is?
I've got too many Attitude improvement stories to mention, it really is all about attitude, there's nothing more important than a positive attitude. Had one example happen last night: The opportunity presents itself on a daily basis if you know how to focus your energy you'll capture it.
Phone rings, it's my Wife's Mother, during the course of the conversation she must have asked what we were having for supper. My wife told her and her mother's response was " IN THIS WEATHER " He's nuts!
I was grilling steaks in a ZERO WIND CHILL. Well that kind of thing makes me happy, besides they make gear for being out in zero weather.
Here's the Best example of a positive attitude being HEALTHY.
Two children were taken to a warehouse for an experiment. One child was put in a warehouse full of any kind of toy a child could ever imagine. The other was placed in a warehouse that was packed full of Manure.
A small group of shrinks/doctors were assigned to monitor each child. The child with the toys played contently with every toy of interest but soon grew bored and ended up just sitting in the middle of the room after about 45 mins. After two hours the other child in the room full of manure was still running around laughing, smiling, playing. They stopped the experiment and asked each child a question:
1st child: You had every toy imaginable so why did you stop playing with them after just 45 mins time: " Well they're just toys and I'm all alone so I got lonely and then tired "
2nd child: We don't understand, you had a room full of manure and after 2 hours you were still running around and playing, why? Well with all of that manure I just knew that there had to be a pony in there somewhere!
best,Bring Em Home Cole