I try to be good to all, yes. It's not that I don't care about others at all, but if someone doesn't like me for some reason, what religion I am or not, that I enjoy alcohol, dated a black woman, whatever, then I am not going to get bent out of shape trying to please them. Some people look to be offended and they thrive on it. It's their spark or their relevance in life. These are the people (like my parents) that have some hope in me that I will turn my life around and "find" god again. The problem is, it's their perception of what they believe god expects out of me, not what god might actually expect out of me. Again, if he even cares.
As far as what you said about living a good life and being good to others as you would want them to do to you, is speaking through god, I guess it's my past dealings with religion that have turned me a bitter person to want to even be associated with god, much less man's religion.
If I do ever change. If. I am more of the line of thought that you said about it's not so much what people see you do, but what you are really doing. It's not about show, it's about what is really in your heart. So if god is watching me, and can forgive my bitterness, and I want him to, then I have a good feeling that I am alright with him.
"That's the problem with drinking ... If something bad happens you drink in attempt to forget; if something good happens you drink in order to celebrate; and if nothing happens you drink to make something happen." -- Charles Bukowski