pandasex wrote: I respect that i dont write anything my husband does to me of course also in fear of any comments lash would have
I dont know if i could pay anyone to explore with myself??
i would feel connecting too much with them i guess. I could never ever be sub with a woman....when i am with women im a top for sure....but not with guys. I have explored being dom with a guy and its just boring to me. Guys liked it but it felt like a job to me and than just wasnt fun at all.
its always been funny to me that we get married (supposedly something that means above all) yet when u approach your mate to do something kinky you are either scared to get turned down or even worse they dont have enough trust with you to explore??? I thought we were above everyone else?? it bothers me when i feel like we were supposed to be so together but only conditionaley ??
i think someone needs to make BDSM or SM intstructional vids....how funny would that be ??
It's too easy for me to not get attached. I think it has a lot to do with why I like to be dominated. I feel detached from things/people in general, so to be treated like a slave is not all that difficult for me. Enticing even.
As far as with someone you are with. My wife already knew I was good and ready from day one, so I just had to wait for when she was ready. The only thing I can say is make your desires known and as you mentioned the worse that can happen is you find out the partner is not interested. But given time, maybe they will in the future, or you might discover something else that they may want from you.