Lying to your mate in that massive, betraying way is oh so wrong
pursuing someone that has a mate is oh so wrong
pursuing someone behind your mates back is oh so wrong
if a marriage doesn't make it..it doesn't make it..that does not make cheating okay... AT ALL
and if you think Jesus is okay with that kind of crap..you are nowhere NEAR enlightened or understanding Jesus and one day you will see that and know the selfishness and the cruelty involved and be and be very ashamed (your hypocrasy is setting this energy up for you..to teach you your tomfoolery..believe me..aboutface now..don't say you were not warned)
ask anyone that ended their marriage in this manner...a few years later and see what they say..they will tell you..if they are humble enough..and honest enough..that even if the marriage needed to end..it was not the way to do it
and about MY marriage you don't know me..you know me from a message board..you don't know my life or my marriage..I have been married since 1987..we have a special needs child...will my marriage make it..I don't know..I am doubtful..the odds are stacked against us at this point..but that is no excuse for infidelity..I personally don't want to be THAT person (and believe me, at first in my anger, I thought I could be, but realized it actually made me sick..made my soul feel sick pursuing life that way)..I NEVER want to be that person..my husband?..well..his journey in that regard is his own..his karma to carry..his soul sickness to heal..my marriage most likely will end one day(but maybe it won't we two have been through hell and high water together)..and I am prepared for that..but it will not be because I committed infidelity..that is not my way..I HATE lying in that way
and to anyone that is acting out in infidelity whether they are married or with a married person..that is their choice..but I warn..it will only bring them shame in the long run. And it will come back to them..
Also..speak to any couple that have survived a long time .if honest they will tell you..they had to cross this river..all do..it's a test..one of life's little tests.to see who are worthy and who are not
some marriages must end,,, but infidelity is no way to do that...it's small and dishonorable and honestly, shameful and not worthy of being brought up when talking of Christ, especially as a way to defend such selfish abhorrant behavior
mark my words
you are young and naive and you don't have children, obviously..
however..maybe you do..it amazes me the selfishness of people..to put themselves before their kids for that crap..butt hey..he devil..he seduces..sometimes he'll even come at you as a beautiful angel..preaching about God,,yet pushing a selfish agenda (and actually believes it themselves, not realizing that maybe they have fallen victim to some evil intent..trying to take them down..test them), defending an obviously selfish and destructive agenda.like infidelity...that any rational mind would recognize as such immediately..but lost in the desire...lost in the fog..lost in the temptation..the devil..he'll seduce yah..later you'll be like 'what was I thinkin?" as you sit in the rubble of the destruction your selfishness..your greed has caused..and the devil will smile
I feel like Cassandra, here
here's a great test..if you really think your relationship is stale..then go to your mate suggestest an one marriage..just hope they don't fidn soimeone else before you..it's so eaqsy to oursue when you've got someone at home..be open...let them pursue, too
or use the conversation to get counceling, maybe
most won't do this..no they'll lie..and cheat..why..because it's selfish..they don't want their mate to have the freedom they are allowing themselves..no they selfishly want their mate to be there for them..even as they are not there for their mate (not realizing this shite becomes addictive and spirals out of control and eventually their partner will find out..and all will pay in the end..much pain will come about..for all involved)
and anyone going out of their way to pursue a married person , whether they are married or not themselves , is really acting like a selfish a-hole. You can tell that by how they all love to say crap like "I couldn;t have done it if the marriage wasn';t faling anyway" it's such a self serving lie4..THEY..their doting bullshite and manipulation is exactly what began the crap in the marriage..all marriages wax and wane..but if a selfish azz comes along ,a t just the right mement..and begins their selfish seduction..I swaer that crap should be made illegal..there;s a special place in hell for people like that,,but that's okay..people that selfish..thye will neve rhave a good long term relationship..and that is lifes little lesson for them..they are too self serving..and will never be truly happy
if you like somebody and their marriage is failing..you stay out of it..it's not your business..if their marriage fails..then so be it..any advice you could give would have a hidden agenda, anyway (trying to break up their marriage for your own selfish pursuits)
it really is totally shameful..douchie..abusive crap
but hey... if you want to defend that crap...for whatever reason you may have....go right ahead
that's on you..I know where I stand on that shite.
Willie Wonka quotes..
What is this Wonka, some kind of funhouse?
Why? Are you having fun?
A little nonsense now and then is relished by the wisest men.
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