sandra wrote:Why oh why did I ever start this thread.

* I was thinking about some of what you have written - Yes, I often doubt people understand me so when someone responds to me how I might respond I'll sometimes take it the wrong way. Sorry if I've done that! It is frustrating when I feel I have been misunderstood.
And you said words to the effect of my implying an older man would 'educate' you - as if to say you were behind him in all, many or most ways. That's not what I intended to convey.
- I meant the 'education' part to be mostly centred on sex, and the emotions which go along with it. - I know well that ladies around twenty years younger than I are more adept at many things that confuse me. And no matter how old the younger woman is, she's always got something the older man can learn from her which is important - and I mean that in a way connected with emotions/love more than sexual methods and mindsets.
I was clumsily saying that an older man who has remained vital can really help a young woman to discover who she is and what she is - by how he makes her feel. In a way, men always find out for themselves how to orgasm - but women need to be shown - and once they've been shown, there's the next level ... and then the next ... and there's more! (Have you figured that out, Sandra)?

- So when/if the lady finds a new love then after some brief experience she can know if he is worth sticking with based on what she's learnt from an older man. I mean that an inexperienced lady won't necessarily know if her guy is good for her or if he is just using her as a sperm bag.