You guys ALL had alot of GREAT things to say on this subject, made me think about alot of things. And I'm glad everyone took time to write down some serious notes on this subject, thanks.
I at times think people use sexual addiction as a scapegoat, and the problem I see, many times these people are actually treated for specific things that are believed to solve these 'addictions', yet I really think the lable sex addiciton is deceiving as well. I think the cause comes out as sexual addiction, but I believe at times it stems from fear, of having lost themselves expressively in other areas, and they realise sexual expression is something they can indulge with less fear of being hurt through their expression, and in turn become the person to hurt others in that process. Its not ok to be decpetive in a relationship that you have made a committment, however its interesting to me how personally people can be hurt by a spouse who cheats, when sometimes, I wonder, how do we weigh deception. Emotionally, mentally, spiritually, sexually- We can be hurt by others in many ways pretty much, but in a relationship, when someone cheats, we consider that a deal breaker, was it the deal maker to begin with then? What happens when someone is being emotionally manipulative throughout an entire relationship? People stay many times. But if someone cheats once, they are ready to get out of dodge. What this makes me ponder, is how central is sex in a relationship? What type of impacts does sex actually have on society as a whole? What do you guys think about some of that?
bionic, you wrote 'theres a space between extremes'- I tend to agree, and that was a cool way of putting it.
greeney2, I think the commandments are important, and not just for 'weak' people.
There is good reasons for them.
And mael, with all your girlfriends, I'm surprised you chimed in on this.
“Living backwards!” Alice repeated in great
astonishment. “I never heard of such a thing!”
“—but there’s one great advantage in it, that one’s
memory works both ways.”
— Lewis Carroll, Through the Looking-Glass