Sit down with your partner with a little egg timer. Set if for five minuets and have one person talking and the other listening without interrupting and at the end of the five minuets switch. You’ll get a lot more said and listened to with this sort of communication rather than if you just sat down and spoke without structure or rules.
sounds like one of those aborigonee "talking stick" kinds of things..
look..HE got me irrational..I wa snot irrational before
This happened three years ago..he's still here..I'm still here..we HAVE BOTH chosen to stay...the anger has dissipated a-lot (believe it or not)
I get it out, here, now
The damage is done..the healing is slow..the scar will remain for life
Our marriage..and both of us in it are like wolves who got caught in a hunter's trap and escaped..we lived..we now walk with limp..life is still good..there are real good days...we just..limp..from now on..learning to walk around the limp
This crap is common.
If you've never been in a longterm realtionship (one that has at least gone on for a couple years)you can't really relate
just..do yourself a favor..and heed the warnings..see the kind of insnaity this kind of selfish behavior creates..murder..suicide..divorce..heart/soul wounds that refuse to heal
IT'S NOT WORTH IT..your gentials and ego will tell you it is..they'll rationlize and whisper every lie into your mind they can come up with to get you to give in to it..heck..our society glamourizes it while hiding how destructive it truly is..this kind of behavior..
the urges will be strong..but you HAVE to be stronger..otherwise you WILL wreck your life..and probably the life or lives of people you deep down geniunely love..not some "pretty cum lately"..though you will land up hurting THAT PERSON too..as well as..mostly..yourself
(warning others is my "therapy"..my way of coping..so hopefully the pain doesn't go completely wasted)
don't shite where you eat..so to speak
“Whether you sniff it smoke it eat it or shove it up your ass the result is the same: addiction.”
― William S. Burroughs
(love&forgive yourself..and everyone else)