You'd think logic would trump love, but that's not how it works with most of them.
The truth is everybody says they would dump a cheater right away...but nobody knows what they will do unless put into that position.
You build your life around someone..well...
It usually does lead to divorce, eventually, though.
It just takes a bit for the poison to really do it's work.http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=fdX7B32j ... re=related
truth is...most long term marriages have suffered from one of the spouses (usually the H) having an affair, at some point..whether both spouses know of it or not (most never find out..like I did..or dont 'go there'..because they don't want to know)
This is one of societies big, open secrets.
It's very damaging (has been very damaging throughout human history)...this..open..secret..society...has...infidelity..
one of societies..many ways it lies to itself..one of it's...lies of ommision
"Oh..I would NEVER!!"
"Oh I would NEVER put up with...!!"
be careful about what you wholeheartedly proclaim you would NEVER do..or NEVER put up with..life will say "okay..let's test out that theory for yah" (people..can talk themselves into doing or not doing things..happens all the time)
"Judge not..l'est ye be judged"
it's karmic and for real
probably part of the reason I am where I am at...judging too harsh
A younger, more arrogant me use to proclaim
"I WOULD NEVER!!" and "I would NEVER put up with that!!"http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=bcrEqIpi6sg
The jokes on me because now the thought of a "revenge affair" goes through my mind A-LOT ..even though it is douchie..I am way more likely to give into the urge now..but don't because of my kid (infidelity has f'd with that poor kid's world enough for one life)..plus He couldn't handle it..hell..I barely could..which is ironic..him not being able to handle it..I mean.. the phrase "dish it out, but can't take it" comes to mind
I am still with him..and still love him (even if I hate him kinda..which I did before knowing he cheated..longterm mate relationships seem to always have a love/hate thign going on, it seems..the main thing is I have lost trust and don;t feel safe with him anymore..this si the longterm damage..I feel like he is the kinda perosn who doesn;t tie deep and could dump me..just liek that..now..not a stick with it..til' death do us art,,kind,,this makes me feel really unsafe and is probabkly what will eventually get me to filing for divorce at some point.
His cheating is not the sum total of who he is and our shared experiences together
life is ..complicated
But cheating IS a real douchebag thing to do
And if I catch him again..that will be it
This is common too..the first discovered affair usually doesn't bring on the divorce filing ..the second or third one is the one that finally makes wifey say "enough is enough"..
Willie Wonka quotes..
What is this Wonka, some kind of funhouse?
Why? Are you having fun?
A little nonsense now and then is relished by the wisest men.
We are the music makers, we are the dreamers of dreams