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spanking good for a relationship??
June 11, 2009
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PM ed u because i cannot post in reply

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June 11, 2009
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"pandasex" wrote: I dont think i could do that to anyone else i would be afraid of having some sort of accident Laugh

The skill of the dom love.

Personally I wouldn’t do it unless my partner really, really wanted to, I mean to the existent of needed to not just wanted to do it, and if there was a good reward for me at the end. 😀

And I mean more of a reward than knowing that’s she’s happy and off in `subspace` somewhere. 😉 😀 It would have to be a really good reward, getting into threesome territory with her sister sort of reward. 😀

Ever gone into Subspace Adam?

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June 11, 2009
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"Lashmar" wrote: The skill of the dom love.

Personally I wouldn’t do it unless my partner really, really wanted to, I mean to the existent of needed to not just wanted to do it, and if there was a good reward for me at the end. 😀

And I mean more of a reward than knowing that’s she’s happy and off in `subspace` somewhere. 😉 😀 It would have to be a really good reward, getting into threesome territory with her sister sort of reward. 😀

Ever gone into Subspace Adam?

You mean have I ever lost my conciousness? I mean I have been pretty inside my head trying to work past the pain in some instances. You go to a place where you know your partner is happy because of your performance. Somewhere that the pain is not on your mind. Nothing but the happiness of your partner. And sometimes that has been pretty deep in my concious to avoid the stimuli of the outside world.

"That's the problem with drinking ... If something bad happens you drink in attempt to forget; if something good happens you drink in order to celebrate; and if nothing happens you drink to make something happen." -- Charles Bukowski

June 11, 2009
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I don’t know Embarassed . I’ve only read a little bit about subspace but from what I’ve heard it’s like `da da` land, away with the fairies and stuff, and just wanted to know what it was like. 😀

What you describe sounds a lot like it to be fair. 🙂

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June 11, 2009
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I'll find the post for you one sec. 😀

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I've seen many references to subspace. When I find information about it, it seems that it has to do with an endorphin high that either allows the sub only to focus on the scene &/or his/her partner, or blurs their focus in some way that limits it to the scene,

have you ever experienced that?

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June 11, 2009
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From that description, yeah I would say that's pretty accurate as to what I felt. An intense moment of concentration to focus on whatever you need to so your able to fulfill whatever task or punishment that your partner requires of you.

"That's the problem with drinking ... If something bad happens you drink in attempt to forget; if something good happens you drink in order to celebrate; and if nothing happens you drink to make something happen." -- Charles Bukowski

June 11, 2009
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Is it good?

It’s one of thoughts things; I’m just interested to know about it. I’m not going to experience it so I just want to know what it’s like.

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June 11, 2009
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It was for me in that it allowed me to endure what I went through at the moment for the sake of my partner. But personally no, I am not a fan of not being in control of myself, through my own weakness. Which I guess is how I looked at it. I wasn't able to do it myself, so I had to go somewhere inside myself to keep myself in control for my partner.

I should be a strong enough submissive to do it on my own.

But I guess I could see where someone would enjoy the euphoria that it brings. It's something like a drug or alcohol high, I would imagine, but much more intense.

"That's the problem with drinking ... If something bad happens you drink in attempt to forget; if something good happens you drink in order to celebrate; and if nothing happens you drink to make something happen." -- Charles Bukowski

June 12, 2009
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i think being sub takes more strength and edurance that being dom for sure. my biggest problem is i need constant talking through it because i dont have enough to get through it myself

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June 12, 2009
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That is where a good dom comes in love. A good dom and time.

The point of a dom isn’t just to dominate you but to open you up and let the real you out and talking the sub through what is going on is most of it at the start.

don't know what Adam thinks about it but that's my tupence worth. 😀

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