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spanking good for a relationship??
April 21, 2009
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http://www.scientificblogging.com/alter ... ence_study

"Relationship closeness was also assessed immediately after the S&M scene took place. Subjects who reported that their scene went well, indicated that they felt closer to their partner afterward. This isn't surprising because even though S&M often includes hot wax, skin branding and enemas, intimacy is actually a big part of S&M; tops really do care about their bottoms as illustrated in this touching observation of human kindness:
...the top noticed that the bottom, who was bent over a table, was moving one foot around, unable to rest it evenly on the floor. The top paused the scene activities and placed a pillow under the bottom's foot to relieve the discomfort."

so now u can harass your spouse with scientific evidence that it will make you two closer Laugh

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May 30, 2009
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Being a submissive myself I can vouche that some mistresses/masters can form a considerate attachment to their slaves. But a submissive/dominate relationship is, like many relationships, is symbiotic. One gets as much from the experience of the other. If the submissive truly enjoys the pain/discomfort, then the dominate, knowing they are pleased can dispense with said pain.

It's about each person's comfort, or I guess in this case, discomfort level. If you have been with the same dominate/submissive, then the relationship develops where each knows what each person's top tier is and can therefore make the relationship work.

I can't give you much information on switches. They are a rare breed, and I have not ever met one that is truly a switch.

"That's the problem with drinking ... If something bad happens you drink in attempt to forget; if something good happens you drink in order to celebrate; and if nothing happens you drink to make something happen." -- Charles Bukowski

May 31, 2009
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Fuck Saturos and BS are going to have fun with this 🙄 Laugh . All I will say is I don’t do pain, if I’m stung by a stinging nettle I’m rolling around the floor in agony for five minuets. Cry Cry Cry

Anyway I’ve been doing research into sub/dom life, I’ve come up with a good idea that I need to look in into and then talk to panda about it, stick around because I’ll need someone from the inside to talk to it about as well. 😀

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May 31, 2009
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I don´t think I have much more obvious things to add... Laugh Laugh

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May 31, 2009
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F*** Saturos and BS are going to have fun with this

No comment :mrgreen:

BloodStone...

If it were raining hookers, I'd get hit by a fag.

June 1, 2009
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"adamwarlock2099" wrote: Being a submissive myself I can vouche that some mistresses/masters can form a considerate attachment to their slaves. But a submissive/dominate relationship is, like many relationships, is symbiotic. One gets as much from the experience of the other. If the submissive truly enjoys the pain/discomfort, then the dominate, knowing they are pleased can dispense with said pain.

It's about each person's comfort, or I guess in this case, discomfort level. If you have been with the same dominate/submissive, then the relationship develops where each knows what each person's top tier is and can therefore make the relationship work.

I can't give you much information on switches. They are a rare breed, and I have not ever met one that is truly a switch.

Keep going....im listening

I think there are true switches...they are usually bisexual as well though. The trust that is involved with the BDSM relationship is what builds the relationship. I think that is what they were getting at with the article.

you sound like you are educated in the field we should talk more 😀

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June 1, 2009
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"Dark-Samus" wrote: I don´t think I have much more obvious things to add... Laugh Laugh

And when I’ve earned my money from my ideas I’ll buy you both an airplane ticket so you can go fuck each other. 😉 Laugh Laugh

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June 1, 2009
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I’ve got this image of you two in a room together now. If we wait for the BV picnic mael will be there as well. Laugh Laugh Laugh

SRO could bring his sister, and I’ll have a brilliant time laughing at Saturos and mael. 😉 Laugh Laugh

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June 1, 2009
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Me and Mael would combine our ideologies on people and...take you down into the bed...and pound your ass with our "ideas" Laugh Laugh Laugh :mrgreen: 😉 😉

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June 1, 2009
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You’d enjoy that as well you sick bastard. 😯 😡

anyway I run faster than you two. And mael will be off trying to kill G2 and all the jews on the BV.

Could you imagine a black Jewish lesbian that’s a feminist as well? 😯 That would be every thing that he hates. Laugh Laugh Laugh

Nigger and a Jew would be bad but a gay feminist that’s black and Jewish as well 😯 . Fuck just run away from that. Laugh Laugh Laugh

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