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Should We Look at Feminism again?
October 1, 2017
9:58 pm
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I am a child of the '70s.  I grew up with "latch-key kids" and divorces.  Feminism was being promoted.  Yet, we also had in my neighborhood, the stay at home mom.  I was raised by my grandma for years.  She instilled her old fashioned values on me.

My grandma wanted to teach me how to be a good home maker.  Yet, with all the promotion of feminism at the day, I rebelled against it.  I wanted a career.  I had one and made the choice to not have children.  Personally, I don't believe the two are compatible.  Plus, my ex-husband couldn't support a family, another story.

Now today, I am a homemaker.  I take care of my mom.  So, I'm a mother to my own mom, lol.  It's either this or she goes to a nursing home.  All those things are are a waiting room for death.  This way, she can have some sort of a "normal" life as she ages.  Besides, my grandma was scared to death of nursing homes.  She was a nurse and knew what some of them were like.  There have been news stories out of Canada that I've seen, about one nurse who intentionally killed people.  Nobody wants a loved one in that situation.

I see stories about stupid things public schools are doing.

Maybe, we should go back to the old fashioned values?  When women stayed home, kept the home, raised the kids, home schooled, and watched their neighborhoods.  There was less crime.  Kids weren't afraid to play outside, somebody's mom was always watching.

Now adays, women are getting their careers together and trying to take care of their kids.  There is this concept of "quality time".  I suggest that that doesn't exist.  Time is time.  Modern women don't have time to cook a real nutritious meal for their family.  They're not getting the nutrition necessary.  I recall memories of my grandma writing a letter, or humming as she baked, to some it may not be "quality time".  Even when she laid down for a nap, that was still time that I knew she was there.  I wanted the understanding that she was there rather than having an hour of attention.  To me it was a source of security, knowing she was around somewhere.  We had "quality" time too.  But, that just came with all the rest of the time.

All of this is just to "keep up with the Jone's".  Do you really need a bigger house?  Is what you pay for daycare worth it?  Would it be cheaper to cook at home and raise your own kids?  Not just financially either.

Then, there are people like my sister who was in her teens/twenties in the seventies.  On facebook, she constantly posts about women in the trades and nontraditional jobs.  I watched her talk to her two daughters and one son.  She constantly talked badly against men after her divorce, but built up her daughters.  Long story short, her son is now in prison.  Is this the product of feminism?

Personally, I'm a petite woman.  I'm barely 100 lbs wet.  I know there are jobs I'm not qualified for, police officer, military, fire fighter, carpenter, mechanic, etc.  Yet, I also know my mind and that I'm smart.  I know where I can compete and where my natural limitations are.  

Oh, one more thing...maybe 😉  I don't like affirmative action either.  I don't want a handicap in the workplace, only at the bowling alley!  I can't bowl!  But, I am competitive when it comes to mental things.  In school, I took debate, I was in the chess club, and often was first chair for clarinet.  Competition is healthy, but you need to know your own strengths.  I can't hammer for as long as most guys could.  I didn't get any trophy for any of them.  😉

OK, another thing (you didn't think I'd stop there greeney, did you?)  I have been told by "bleeding-heart" men that I'm actually against women.  I call myself a female chauvinist.  I appreciate what nature gave me.

Such a society would be dominated by an elite, unrestrained by traditional values. Soon it will be possible to assert almost continuous surveillance over every citizen... - Zbigniew Brezhinsky

October 7, 2017
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I think we must share a brain. I feel the same way you do. I also do not believe females should run countries. Merkel, anyone? What a disaster! I have been called a female chauvinist on more than one occasion. Also, when I see a crappy driver it is usually a female. Not saying all females drive like crap, but seriously stop trying to feed your kid and drive! 

October 7, 2017
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I think I like ya Rose.  😀

I'll also suggest that many or maybe most women vote for people for stupid reasons.  I hold myself as an exception.  But, I get so mad when I hear a woman say, "I'm voting for her because she is a woman".  What???!!!  Do you look at the issues?  Do you even know where she stands on the issues?  Or, when Bill Clinton was running I heard women say they were going to vote for him because he was better looking.  Seriously people... Women like that make me look bad.  If you're going to be stupid about politics, please please please don't vote!

Oh, and I agree about the driving.  Again, I feel I'm an exception.  I pay attention to what is on the road, not my phone.  I can also drive a stick shift.

Such a society would be dominated by an elite, unrestrained by traditional values. Soon it will be possible to assert almost continuous surveillance over every citizen... - Zbigniew Brezhinsky

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