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Death in the family, funeral today
July 2, 2011
7:11 pm
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gudskepteacal
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Hey everybody, a member of my extended family at least has passed away this last week and we're off to lay him to rest today. Glenn Lane was my aunt's husband for some time and my cousins lovingly called him Glenpa growing up which is what I knew him by until his death at the age of 86. He and my aunt divorced some years ago, but fate and circumstance brought them together again here in this little town for the last few years where they've lived together as companions; I guess one would say. Though they had no children together, my aunt's kids and grandkids all thought of him as their family and treated him with love and respect as such. He was a veteran of WWII, serving on a Navy warship until an accident found him on the deck one day when the big guns went off which left both eardrums punctured; medically discharging him from the military. He leaves behind children from another marriage who I've never personally met; maybe today is the day.

These last few weeks I've helped my aunt with him when she needed to run errands or just get away for awhile and I can't help but think of how his earthly suffering is finally over which leaves me feeling relieved, in spite of his passing. The man that I've helped tend to these last few days was just a shell of the one I remember having all the good times with before the cancer left him bedridden, down to 105 lbs.(if that), and unable to communicate coherently with us for any length of time. His eyes were...I DK, just something in those eyes haunted/still haunts me at times. If you've ever seen a sick and dying animal just hours before the end; and not only that, but the shame and humiliation of not being able to take care of himself at the end - my heart broke for him, it's nothing nice.

Anyway, I implore everybody to try and not take tomorrow for granted and live each day without regret, for none know the day and hour of their passing. Find something you're passionate about and dive in head first with enthusiasm and zest for life; even if it kills us. For I would much rather go like that than what I witnessed first hand with Glenpa.

"History records that the money changers have used every form of abuse, intrigue, deceit, and violent means possible to maintain their control over governments by controlling money and its issuance." - James Madison

July 2, 2011
7:33 pm
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My heartfelt sympathy to you and your family. He sounds like he was a great Uncle, great man, and great American. Like you say gudskepteacal, we have men like your Uncle to thank for weekends like this, having served in the Navy, and been injured for life, for our freedom in WW2. God took him on such a National Holiday weekend, I'm sure he would have been glad to pass, on a day fitting such a true Ameican. The unsung hero is one like your Uncle who went into the service during the war, did his duty and came home. They endured unthinkable things, and many returned with lifelong scars like his hearing loss. He probably never complained a day in his life over it, and was just glad to be back home, to enjoy a life until a ripe ol age. As it should be!

Take care, and our thoughts are with you.

July 3, 2011
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RIP to your grampa

One of my grandad's I never knew..he died before I was born (my dad's dad)..the other one..lived back in the UK..My Poppa.
I was very close with my mom's parents..they raised me as a small girl (and my sibs), as much as my own parents did.
We moved to the States and I only saw my Nanny one more time and my Poppa two more times before they passed on out of this world.
Like typical Brit blue colar folks..they did not take very good physcial care of themselves so both died before age 70.
But I feel them with me, always. (especially my Nan)
I knew my other Nan as a young girl, too (my dad's mom) She was not as close to me, though. I know she cared deeply for me, but I think she didn't like my mom too much , or was uncomfortable with her..or my mom , was that way with her..maybe it went both ways, not sure..something along those lines ..it interfered with how she was with us kids. (me and my sibs)

Willie Wonka quotes..
What is this Wonka, some kind of funhouse?
Why? Are you having fun?
A little nonsense now and then is relished by the wisest men.
We are the music makers, we are the dreamers of dreams

July 3, 2011
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Thank you both for those kind words; it means alot at a time like this.

We got him buried yesterday and he looked at peace finally and much better than he had these last few weeks at the funeral home viewing. They did a good job preparing the body and the service went well. My aunt was visibly shaken but coping about as good as can be expected. He actually had only one biological daughter who lives in CA, but, as I understand it, was never close with her father so it wasn't a big surprise when she didn't show for the funeral.

Thanks again,
guds.

"History records that the money changers have used every form of abuse, intrigue, deceit, and violent means possible to maintain their control over governments by controlling money and its issuance." - James Madison

July 3, 2011
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Remember him alive in his good times, and where he is now.

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